Sunday, October 6, 2013

You Belong! 8th Grade Parents: Your help is requested by Tuesday, October 15, 2013

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Amherst Regional Middle School




Dear ARMS 8th Grade Families:
Welcome back to school!  This fall we have a new program called You Belong! for our 8th grade students which will take place on Monday, November 4th for Team Evergreen, Tuesday, November 5th for Team Greylock and on Wednesday November 6th for Team Frost.

The You Belong! Program will take place in the ARMS gym.  It will be a full day event, beginning at 8:00 am and going until dismissal at 2:20. There will be a break for lunch at the regular 8th grade lunch time.

The You Belong! Program:
  • Breaks down social and culture barriers.
  • Increases peer advocacy.
  • Increases ability to communicate honestly about difficult and challenging issues.

  • Reduces bullying, teasing and stereotyping.
  • Increases sense of belonging, value and self-esteem.
  • Increases healthy emotional expression.

True heroism is trusting what is in one’s heart enough to step out and let it be seen.

Please find a full description of the program on the next sheet.

The cost of this event is not in the school budget, so we are asking each 8th grade family to contribute what they can now.  We hope you will see this as an opportunity to support and recognize the great importance of helping our 8th graders become an emotionally strong and supportive group.  This program will give them the skills and the bonds to take them successfully through to their high school graduation. 

The cost for each student in this program is $25.   We are asking that each family contribute what they can to support You Belong!  Please consider an additional donation of what you can afford ($25, $50, $100) to help support scholarships.  Please send in cash or check (made out to ARMS) along with the completed detached form to your student's advisory teacher by Tuesday, October 15th.   

GREAT NEWS!! The Amherst Rotary Club has given ARMS $500 dollars to help us get started!

For more information you may contact:  Rebecca Fricke (parent volunteer) rebfricke@gmail.com or Mike Malone (Assistant Principal) malonem@arps.org

Thank you so much for your support --
Rebecca Fricke
(Please detach and return with your contribution and permission slip)

Student's name:  _____________________________________   Team: _______________________________

Please check the following:
__ Yes!  I can support the 8th grade year-end activities.  Enclosed is my contribution of:
__ $5                     __ $15                   __ $25                   __ $50                   __ $75           ____ $100  ___ other

__ I would like to request a scholarship for You Belong!



Parent’s Name: _______________________________________

__________________________________________________________________________

 Synopsis 

You Belong!
Igniting a generation of everyday heroes

There can seem to be a lot at stake when you are in middle school and high school. It can a place where you have to navigate so many things claiming to measure your value your grades, relationships, affiliation with a particular group, where you live, the color of your skin or whom you are attracted to. When assumptions are made, it can be a place where appearances make the difference between fitting in or feeling isolated  or alone. Reputations can be made and broken in a matter of seconds with just the click of a button. The result is
that there can be so many formative feelings, questions, hopes and fears that feel like they must be kept hidden – things that feel so very real, yet lie just below the surface of what people allow to be seen and talked about.

But, what if you did not have to try to fit in? What if you could feel confident that if you shared who you really are – the self that you let few see – that it would be held with respect and care? What if you could step into the hallway of your school and know that you had a group of peers who knew the real you and had your back? What if you could be a part of creating a school where people knew they belonged?

You Belong! is a transformative program that engages students, teachers and community members in creating a vibrant culture of compassion, inclusion and support. Through a progression of dynamic group activities, thought provoking questioning, and transparent dialogue, participants co-create an environment of physical and emotional safety where the full and authentic expression of each person is welcomed and honored. During this process, participants deepen connections with self and others, resulting in increased personal confidence and compassion. Ignited by the four components of everyday heroism – vision, courage, vulnerability and action – participants emerge more emphatically rooted in their unique strengths, embodying actions that reflect their values and those of their community.

The You Belong! Program:
Breaks down social and culture barriers. Reduces bullying, teasing and stereotyping. Increases peer advocacy.
Increases sense of belonging, value and self-esteem.
Increases ability to communicate honestly about difficult and challenging issues. Increases healthy emotional expression.

True heroism is trusting what is in one’s heart enough to step out and let that be seen. Yes, there is risk, but think of what you are risking without this act. How can you truly belong if the real you has never been revealed. A community of belonging can be inspired by the action of just a few. How much more when it is an entire class of everyday heroes?

Program Outline:
The first half of the day is highly fun and active as participants engage in a series of energizing group activities, icebreakers and initiatives that serve to build rapport and trust amongst individuals. During this time, groups of 6-8 are formed and have the opportunity to develop group identity by generating a group name, cheer and handshake.

The transition to the second half of the day involves creating a physically and emotionally safe container through the dialogue addressing respect, attention and confidentiality. This results in the commitment to a set of norms that will help guide encounters throughout the rest of the day. During this time, students also learn particular communication tools such as I” language and the framing of positive and negative statements.

The second half of the day leads participants through a progression of dialogues, reflections and sharing.  Activities focus on identifying personal strengths and vision, enabling participants to see their own unique value, and encouraging them to wield that value in an “on purpose” manner. The day ends with an opportunity for appreciation, gratitude and sharing within the entire class. Due to all that has been built up to this point, this can be by far the richest part of the day. The final component is a commitment ceremony allowing students to identify ways in which they will carry forward the spirit of what took place during this program.


Challenge by Choice: This program implements the philosophy of challenge by choice. We are most interested in encouraging participants to explore their true and authentic selves amidst their peers. We find that this happens best when participants engage in activities that allow them to step from the world of the known and familiar to that of new experiences and abilities. It is important for participants to recognize that this experience involves exploring personal boundaries and understanding how to identify where it is healthy to stretch one’s boundaries, as well as where it is important to hold fast to those boundaries for one’s physical and emotional safety. These boundaries will be different for each person and are ultimately for that individual to define. Our facilitators will always encourage participants to step outside their comfort-zone into the realm of the unknown where new learning and personal growth occurs. However, it is of vital importance that participants have the opportunity at any point to adjust their involvement in activity in such a way that they can still contribute to the process while maintaining their physical and emotional well-being.

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